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2020.09.28 05:43 S0cialistdick At what point does finding different ethnicities attractive become sexual tokenism/fetishisation?

I know I'm gonna regret asking, but fuck it.
I live in New Zealand, which is mostly caucasian in regards to population metrics, myself included. As a result, both the dating and hookup pools aren't as racially and culturally diverse as they might be in larger countries, so being able to find a romantic partner who is asian/African -American/middle-eastern becomes more difficult than it would be in places like America. This isn't meant to be an excuse, but just some context. Think 'small-town mindset' but on a national scale.
Here's the problem: I've been actively looking for women with some more melanin in the dating scene, as I find them incredibly attractive. Annoyingly, this hasn't been successful. But more importantly, I feel as if I'm starting to unconsciously fetishise them in doing so. I don't have a specific preference for a woman's skin colour at all, and that has not stopped me in the past, but I don't want to run the risk of doing what I see so many others doing, which is getting with someone because they are "different". That's never my intention, of course, but I still think I should stop what I'm doing because it could be viewed as wrong -- or hell, maybe it IS wrong and I'm trying to psyche myself into ignoring it.
I should say, also, that I don't treat any potential romantic partner any differently when it comes to ethnicity; I'm still very interested in their personality, their interests, and who they voted for (I'm a politics nerd, sue me), and I aim to treat each of them with the same courtesy and respect you should be giving another human being. But I still feel like, in actively searching for a WOC, I'm being a bit of a bigoted asshole?
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2020.09.27 21:05 Mayonaisepainting101 AITA for continuing to text my Cousin’s Ex?

So I (F17) use Instagram of course. I do follow people that are recommended to me. So almost a full week ago I got a random message from someone I was following. It was just the question “Have we Met?” To which I responded “I don’t think so?” This account proceeds to mention that he feels like he’s seen me before, but just throws that aside.
I really enjoy anime, which is why I believe I followed him, because of his anime profile pic. I told this to him and we immediately started talking about the anime we like.
Turns out our faves were the same, and we just kept texting non stop. I didn’t text him like I would text a guy I liked (intentionally not checking my phone, being subtle ect.) I responded quickly and passionately about the topics. Because of that, we just immediately connected.
His profile was empty, but you could view his tags. And as I was looking through, I realized who he was.
He was my cousin’s sort of ex.
To summarize it, my cousin (F20) was working when her coworker introduced her to this guy, we’ll name Dylan (M21), around 3-4 years ago. So at the time my cousin was 16-17, he was 17-18, and I was 14 since my birthday is later. My cousin and I were really close at the time, but she usually kept her personal life away because she was afraid I’d snitch to my mom (our moms are quite close as well)
When she met Dylan she was head over heels because he was very attractive and down to Earth. They didn’t date because they didn’t live in the same town back then. One day, something happened involving a comb that Dylan left behind in her car. When my cousin returned it, Dylan ignored her because he was mad, my cousin chucked it at his head and ran off with her friend who was there to see it.
Ever since then, she was mopey about it and called him an asshole. She told me she kept having dreams about him, but then she graduated and moved on with her life. The point being, I have no idea what the full story was. I don’t know who was in the wrong or what happened to escalate that.
Fast forward now and my cousin has stopped dating guys like Dylan. She doesn’t date white guys at all. She currently has a boyfriend who is African American. This has been an issue in our family but she knows I don’t care about it at all. Her current boyfriend knows some of my friends even. But every time I text her, she either doesn’t respond, or responds late. I haven’t done anything to her, but I know she’s getting older and is distancing from our family.
I still haven’t told Dylan that I figured out how I know him. I feel really guilty for this. I’m starting to really like him and wouldn’t mind hanging out sometime. I feel like my cousin would either not care that I’ve been texting him or she would be ticked off and maybe even get mad at him.
AITA for wanting to get to know him more? Even after I figured out who he was?
(INFO: I’m almost 18 and a senior in HS)
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2020.09.27 20:45 KromPiesang FYI: Experian data breach - database publicly available

News link and source of this post: MyBroadband - Highly sensitive information about South Africans from Experian breach now freely available online (27/09/2020)
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I don't think any of us can do anything about this, unfortunately.
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2020.09.27 20:08 BronzeJello Did It Hurt to Be Martyred? The Surprising Answer. Guest Post by Stephanie Cobb. (The Bart Ehrman Blog)

One of my most accomplished former students is Stephanie Cobb, now the George and Sallie Cutchin Camp Professor of Bible in the Department of Religious Studies at the University of Richmond. While doing her PhD at UNC, Stephanie became deeply interested in the accounts of martyrdom in early Christianity, leading to a dissertation with one of the best titles ever (it really does describe the book but it’s unusually clever): Dying to be Men: Gender and Language in Early Christian Martyr Texts.
Stephanie has become one of the leading experts in this field, backed up now with an intriguing and important second book on the martyr texts. It will be of particular interest to members of the blog and so I’ve asked Stephanie to make some guest posts about it. Here is the first.
Bart recently asked if I would be interested in writing a few posts about my latest book, Divine Deliverance: Pain and Painlessness in Early Christian Martyr Texts. But before diving into Divine Deliverance itself, I want to back up for a moment to talk a bit about what I love so much about early Christian martyr texts. I became fascinated by these (mostly 2nd and 3rd cen. ce) accounts in grad school. My first sustained study of them—Dying to be Men: Gender and Language in Early Christian Martyr Texts—looked at the ways martyr texts utilized gendered language to make arguments about Christian superiority over against pagans and Jews, on the one hand, and to dictate a normative gendered hierarchy within the Christian community, on the other hand. As I worked on this book, scouring the Greek and Latin texts carefully for gendered language and allusions, I stumbled upon another sort of language that I wasn’t expecting and that, to be honest, confounded me: over and over again, in a variety of different ways, these texts claimed that the martyrs did not feel pain when they were tortured!
And so, Divine Deliverance, at its core, asks a rather simple question: “Does martyrdom hurt?” The answer may seem so obvious as to make the question ridiculous. These texts talk about Christians being burned alive, thrown into the amphitheater to face gladiators or beasts, being hanged by their thumbs, and a wide assortment of other kinds of tortures that I’m fairly certain hurt a lot. The point of torture was to entice Christians to deny their faith and return to the traditional religions of the Roman empire. Pain was a judicial tool used by the Roman government. Pain not only worked to push individuals to deny their faith, since it was typically publicly inflicted, it served as a deterrent for others. Every tool in the prosecutors’ tool bag inflicted some sort of pain—whether psychological, physiological, or emotional. So, martyrdom must hurt.
Theologically speaking, moreover, the point of these narratives must surely be—right?—to communicate to audiences the details of the torture and execution of these exceptional Christians. For most of us, I think, the martyrs stand as exemplary individuals who withstood excruciating pain in order to faithfully witness to Jesus. (The term “martyr,” by the way means “to witness” in Greek; it is judicial language that Christians appropriated and eventually applied to those who testified in court and were executed for doing so.) When we hear about their travails, we might wince and wonder whether we have what it takes to do what they did. They are the superheroes of Christianity: they have powers that we can’t imagine having ourselves, and they use them to build up the faith. As the third-century North African Christian, Tertullian, famously said: “the blood of the martyrs is the seed of the church.”
Indeed, it is precisely the detailed descriptions of the dissolution of bodies that has led scholars to the consensus that Christian authors of this period specifically focused on Christian suffering. This interest was part and parcel of a larger social movement—as Judith Perkins argues in her wonderful analysis of Christianity of this period in The Suffering Self: Pain and Narrative Representation in the Early Christian Era—that acknowledged, for the first time, bodies that feel pain and experience suffering. She calls this new cultural representation the “suffering self.” Authors of this period—Roman, Jewish, and Christian—began discussing in some detail the experiences of the suffering body: twisted ankles, intestinal distresses, fevers, disembowelment. Christian writings of the period, it could be argued, are all concerned—at some level—about persecution/prosecution, suffering, and their effects on the faith. Perkins rightly notes that stories of individuals in Christian literature have a social function much larger than communicating one person’s experience: they simultaneously describe the individual and social body. If the second century bishop, Ignatius, anticipated he would face “fire and cross, packs of beasts, dissections, divisions, scattering of bones, chopping up of limbs, grinding up of the entire body,” he was also describing what Christianity at large should expect. To be a Christian, Perkins argues, is to suffer.
Didn’t Jesus and Paul, after all, teach that their followers should expect rejection and suffering? In Matthew 5, Jesus tells his followers to pray for those who persecute them. They should expect, that is, to suffer. In Luke 14, Jesus teaches that only those who “take up the cross” are his disciples. In Mark 13, Jesus followers are told they will be hated by everyone. In Matthew 23, Jesus predicts that some of those listening to him will be crucified. Paul speaks often of his own imprisonment and torture. (2 Cor 11; 1 Thess 2; Rom 8; Gal 6). He recites this history as a way of authenticating his faith. As heirs of these texts and traditions, then, surely the martyr texts anticipate and value bodily suffering. It fulfills Jesus’ prophecies and, like Paul’s, differentiates true from false Christians. This understanding of Christian pain is not only biblical, though. Pope Benedict XVI taught that true Christian love entails suffering. “The cross,” he explained, “reminds us that there is no true love without suffering, there is no gift without pain.” (https://zenit.org/articles/benedict-xvi-no-suffering-no-love/) Christian identity—both individually and corporately—seems inextricably connected with bodily pain.
Does martyrdom hurt? Despite all that I’ve said above. Despite the sensibleness of these arguments and the obviousness of the answer “yes,” in Divine Deliverance I argue that the martyr texts reflect a very different approach to the question. These ancient discussions of Christian martyrdom reveal an abiding interest in the insensitivity of the Christian body during torture and martyrdom. Claims to painlessness are crucial to the texts’ work of (re-)defining Christianity in the ancient world: while Christians could not deny the reality that they were subject to state violence, they could argue that they were not ultimately vulnerable to its painful effects. Thus early Christian texts distinguish categories that modern readers tend to collapse: torture and suffering, injury and pain. The martyrs are tortured and injured but they do not experience suffering and pain. Texts produced between the second and fourth centuries reflect Christian communities’ interactions with their contemporaries—pagans, Jews, and other Christians—and the development of their belief systems. The martyr texts’ claims to impassibility (the martyrs’ inability to feel pain) and/or impassivity (the martyrs’ lack of response to pain) have repercussions not only for the power structures undergirding Roman violence but also for the development of Christology, ecclesiology, and eschatology. And that will be the subject of my next post.
Source & comments: https://ehrmanblog.org/did-it-hurt-to-be-martyred-the-surprising-answer-guest-post-by-stephanie-cobb/

How Could Torture Not Hurt?? Guest Post by Stephanie Cobb

Here now is the second of three posts by Stephanie Cobb on her recent book about early Christian accounts of the martyrs. As you’ll see, she makes some rather astonishing and counter-intuitive claims. But I think she’s completely right. This is fascinating material….

Stephanie Cobb’s most popular books are Dying to Be Men and Divine Deliverance.
In the previous post, I detailed the reasons martyr texts ought to focus on the suffering and pain of early Christians experiencing torture and being executed for their faith. I also, though, noted that despite those reasons, the texts exhibit an interest in protecting the Christian body from the experience of pain. In this post, we’ll look at some of the ways Christian authors accomplish their goals of illustrating Christian insensitivity to pain.
But first, a quick caveat: in my work, I focus on rhetoric and narrative—not history per se. That is, I am not arguing that torture does not hurt. In fact, I am certain that torture hurts and to deny that is a dangerous political/theological stance to take in the world in which we live. So I want to be crystal clear that I am not making a claim about historical bodies and their insensitivities to judicial torture. There are ways one could make these arguments (i.e., bodies go into shock, etc.) but those arguments go beyond the evidence given in the narratives themselves: they assume the historicity of the narrative account and then try to explain it physiologically. I think that is a rather backwards approach. Instead, I ask about how the rhetoric of painlessness works within the larger narrative world constructed within the martyr text: what does pain represent in the narrative world? What does rejection of pain mean in the narrative world? Who is acting effectively and whose actions are ineffective? By asking these questions—rather than those of history—I hope to get a sense of how these texts functioned for Christian communities in ways that go far beyond recording the death of an individual Christian.
So, turning to these early Christian texts, when we ask of them “Does martyrdom hurt?”, they answer back unequivocally: “no.” This assertion is ubiquitous: it is found in both Greek and Latin texts across the Roman Empire, in stories dating from the mid-second century into the fifth century and beyond. The martyr accounts portray the body being beaten, scraped, clawed, burned, and otherwise attacked, and they simultaneously deny that this injured Christian body feels pain. When the martyr Pamphilus, for instance, is hanged up and scraped with metal claws, he asserts, “I feel no pain” (Mart. Carp. B3.6). Rather than being defeated by torture, Blandina “was renewed by her confession, which resulted in recovery, rest, and insensitivity [analgesia]” (Lyons 1.18). Christian martyrs are—time and again—delivered from the pain of persecution. The thick descriptions of tortured bodies stand in tension with the texts’ claims that martyrs feel no pain.
Although the claims to painlessness are pervasive, they are not identical: while some stories assert impassibility—the inability to feel pain—others focus on the martyrs’ impassivity—their lack of response to torture. But in all cases, the narratives insist that Christian bodies are not fundamentally harmed by persecution. A number of texts, for example, explicitly deny the experience of pain in martyrdom. Some employ the language of “analgesia” or “anesthesia” in their descriptions of the martyrs’ experiences of torture, while others negate terms for pain. We have already seen two examples of this approach above: Pamphilus’s claims not to feel pain and Blandina’s experience of “analgesia” in response to torture. Eusebius offers a second example of Blandina’s insensitivity to pain later in the account: “after the whips, the animals, and the frying pan, finally, having been tossed into a net she was exposed to a bull, and being tossed a long time by the animal, she no longer felt what was happening” (Lyons 1.56). The fourth-century Christian poet, Prudentius, wrote about a martyr named Romanus whose persecutors were “laboring” and “panting” while torturing him, but he remained “at rest.” Romanus explains to his puzzled persecutors: “If you seek, prefect, to know the truth, all of this, all the mangling, is not painful” (Peri. 10.459-60). The prefect himself eventually concedes that Romanus’s “whole body has grown insensible” (10.582). These examples can be multiplied, of course, but I offer one last one that is, in my opinion, one of the most beautiful lines in all of the martyr texts: it explains how one of Blandina’s Christian companions was also protected from the physical sensations of torture. The narrator writes, that Sanctus served as a “model for all the others that there is nothing fearful where the Father’s love is, nothing painful where Christ’s glory is” (Lyons 1.23).
While some texts make the bald claim that torture doesn’t hurt, other times the narratives offer slightly more nuanced arguments. In some cases, for example, an author distances the body from the mind/soul. So some anonymous martyrs described in the Martyrdom of Polycarp, “in the hour that they were being tortured . . . had traveled away from the flesh” (2.2). These Christians were “no longer humans but already angels” (2.3). Even before their physical deaths, the author claims, their souls had abandoned their bodies and were already enjoying the rewards of heaven. Similarly, in the Martyrdom of Montanus and Lucius, Cyprian promises Flavian that “the body does not feel this at all when the mind is entirely devoted to God” (21.4).
Yet another approach to Christian insensitivity to judicial pain invokes the reassuring presence of the divine with the martyrs. Pamfilus, for instance, insists: “I feel no pain because I have someone who strengthens me; one whom you are not able to see endures in me” (Mart. Carp. B3.6). In the Passion of Perpetua and Felicitas, Felicitas explains that she feels the pain of parturition but when she is in the arena, “another will be in me who will endure for me because I will be enduring for him” (15.6). When a group of martyrs was being torn to shreds by shells, the author of the Martyrdom of Polycarp explains that they were able to endure the torture in silence because “The Lord was standing near, speaking with them” (2.2).
Early Christian martyr texts make the general point of Christian insensitivity to pain in a number of other ways, as well. Sometimes the pain that is supposed to be experienced by the Christian is, instead, experienced by the persecutor in a kind of divine “I’m rubber, you’re glue” kind of exchange. Sometimes authors make a point to show Christians experience pain that relates to worldly attachments (children, parents, etc.), but they are insensitive to the dissolution of the body relating to martyrdom. And sometimes, the texts utilize gallows humor to insist on Christian invulnerability to pain. So, after examining the texts closely, the answer to my question “Does martyrdom hurt?” is a confounding, but nonetheless clear, “no.”
Having laid out the data given in the martyr texts relating to painlessness, it still remains for me to offer an explanation for it. Early Christians knew well how the events of the amphitheater went. They would have been familiar with the judicial system, its goals, its tools, and its outcomes. Pretty much anyone who has a body can imagine what being burned, stabbed, hanged might feel like—at least in part. The audiences of these early texts were no different. So why would the authors of these stories make such outlandish claims about Christian bodies? My last post will offer some ways of understanding the logic of this choice.
https://ehrmanblog.org/how-could-torture-not-hurt-guest-post-by-stephanie-cobb/

But WHY Doesn’t Torture Hurt?? Guest Post by Stephanie Cobb

In my first two posts, I asked “Does martyrdom hurt?” and explored reasons why early Christian martyr texts might reasonably answer “yes!” but then detailed the ways in which these texts actually make the counterintuitive argument: “No! Martyrdom doesn’t hurt.” In this—my last—post on Divine Deliverance: Pain and Painlessness in Early Christian Martyr Texts, I want to explore a slightly different question: “Why doesn’t martyrdom hurt?”
To read a text and note the language it uses is the easy part of research. To explain why certain language is preferred by a particular author or across time and space—especially when it’s unexpected language—is not only the hard part of research, it’s also the part that makes it meaningful. In other words, not many people will care that martyr texts used language of analgesia and anesthesia; they may (I hope) care why. And so the rest of this post offers a few ways of contextualizing the claims I originally found so confounding.
  • Eschatological hopes. The discourse of painlessness would have been easily understood in terms of eschatological expectations. The martyr texts are apocalyptic texts in that they posit a dualistic worldview, anticipate the coming end of time, final judgment, and the eternal rewards of the faithful. But, at least for some of these authors, Christians enduring torture do not have to wait until the end of time to receive the benefits of their salvation. Rather, the texts suggest that the martyrs attain these rewards—at least in part—even before their deaths. That is, we may find in some of these narratives an assertion of a realized eschatology: for the martyrs, the benefits of future glory are translated into the present world.
Of particular import in this case are the beliefs about the resurrected and glorified body. The third century North African author, Tertullian, asserts that the resurrected flesh will be “impassible, inasmuch as it has been liberated by the Lord so that it is no longer possible for it to suffer” (Res. 57.13). The medieval historian Caroline Walker Bynum uses a beautiful phrase to explain this expectation: she suggests that a “sort of anesthesia of glory” might spill over from the “promised resurrection into the ravaged flesh of the arena” (The Resurrection of the Body in Western Christianity 200-1336, 45). Relevant to this promise is Revelation 21:4, which describes the New Jerusalem: in this glorified place, “death will be no more, morning and crying and distress/pain will be no more.” In the bodies of the martyrs, Satan has been defeated and through the martyrs’ impassibility, the kingdom of God has been realized.
  • Stoic discourses. Martyr texts—like so many other Christian texts in antiquity—draw on Stoic philosophy. Assertions of Christian disinterestedness in pain correspond with certain understandings of Stoic teachings. For Stoic philosophy, pain must be understood within the larger goal of living in accordance with nature. One must accept what one cannot change. The Stoic philosopher Epictetus, for instance, taught that we cannot change whether or not we are executed, but we can control how we react to execution: I can stop myself from groaning or crying out or wailing. Generally speaking, Stoics did not claim that the philosopher could overcome the sensation of pain altogether; rather, they argued for self-control in the face of pain. But there is evidence of certain misunderstandings of Stoic teachings on this exact point.
The Jewish Stoic author of 4 Maccabees is one case in point: he argues that “devout reason” masters the passions that stand in the way of manliness, namely: anger, fear, and pain (1.4). In relating the story of the elderly Jewish man Eleazar, the narrator explains that reason “masters external pain” (6.34). Similarly, a group of brothers who successfully resist the tyrant’s demands demonstrate that they were “complete masters of pain” (8.28). 4 Maccabees was known and used by early Christians, and so it would not be surprising for Christians, too, to associate reason with the ability to rise above the experience of bodily pain.
  • Judicial discourses. I mentioned in my last post that inflicting pain was central to the judicial system of the Roman empire. One way of understanding claims to Christian painlessness is to see it as a response to pagan claims to the efficacy of judicial torture. That is to say, both pagans and Christians used existing discourses to claim cultural capital for themselves and to deny that capital to their opponents.
Pagan authors cast Christians as stubborn members of politically threatening groups who, as such, were justly tortured and executed. These authors narrate the triumph of Roman power over lawless individuals who threaten the empire. Since, as we have already seen, judicial pain was inflicted publicly in order to serve as a deterrent to others, Christian rejection of the experience of pain was especially subversive. In their claims to Christian insensitivity to pain, the martyr texts upend the entire logic of the Roman judicial system: through these narratives, Christian audiences are taught that what appears to be happening is not what, in fact, happens. Christian martyr texts reject the premise that Rome can harm the bodies of the faithful.
By undermining the judicial theory of pain, the early Christian martyr texts destabilize the entire system that supports the social, political, and religious life of imperial Rome. The Roman persecutors are found to be wholly inept at achieving their two related goals: first, they cannot hurt the Christian body—no matter how much torture they apply—and second, their attempts to dissuade others from joining the Christian faith inevitably backfire. Far from being a deterrent, the martyr texts assert that public torture brings more people into the fold.
Even more important than what the texts teach us about the individual body, however, is the lesson this counter-discourse teaches about the social body. The martyr’s body is simultaneously individual and social: it illustrates the strengths and (potential) weaknesses of Christianity as a social phenomenon as much as it does those of any particular individual. As such the Christian body’s resistance to the power of Rome takes on even more meaning. If the persecution of Christianity had as its aim the destruction of the movement, the impenetrability of the individual body demonstrates the impenetrability of the social body. Rome can no more destroy Christianity as a whole than it can harm any one of its members.
Before ending my stint as guest blogger, I’d like to make one final point about the discourse of painlessness in early Christian martyr texts. I have come to believe that we misread these texts if we insist on their historicity or that they must have at least a veneer of historicity to them. In the contexts in which they were written—when Christians feared (rightly or not) that they might be caught up in Roman persecutions—these texts have much loftier aims than merely reciting the “facts” of a particular event. Rather, I now read these texts as nothing less than miracle stories. It is not the individual Christian martyr whose story is front and center. These narratives focus primarily on the work of God. In the moments when an individual would feel most alone, these authors insist that nothing could be further from the truth. Bodies that should be in pain are not because they have been divinely delivered from that experience. God is not absent when Christians are standing in the arena; God is there, suffering for them, protecting their bodies from the pain that inevitably results from physical torture. The Christian martyr texts are not interested in “real” bodies. They are telling the story of God’s interaction in and with his people. These texts teach us not to be deceived by what we see with our eyes. Rather, we must look with the eyes of faith to see that the Lord is standing by, strengthening the martyrs, comforting them, healing them, protecting them, and rewarding them. In the end, the martyr texts narrate the miracle of divine deliverance.
https://ehrmanblog.org/but-why-doesnt-torture-hurt-guest-post-by-stephanie-cobb/
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2020.09.27 17:39 DarkasEbony The secret about fem tops

I have a theory that the reason gay men are obsessed with masculinity is that subconciously it will prove that those who rejected or made fun of gays in front of them growing up, finally accept them.
The problem with this is that it's an act for most. In the Black community, you can tell when someone would be told that they "talk White(because African American vernacular isn't a dialect, but that's for another day) but pretends to be the rough, thug stereotype that the media portrays.
Drake is a great example. Preppy suburban boy pretending to be hard for street cred. But people can see through that. If they ignore it, it's because of their own delusion.
It doesn't matter how you were raised, it doesn't matter what your interests are. If you aren't 100% the idea of masculinity, a gay bottom is waiting to say "you're not a real top" or "you're not my type".
However, those of us who are paying attention know that the way gay men who come out suddenly become "flamboyant" is due to suppressing it for so long. It evens out in time as they become more comfortable expressing it. And the ones who are more effeminate their entire life become more stereotypically masculine as they age.
For many, they don't understand how a drag queen for example could be a top. Because he gets to have fun without being judged for that time period. When he's done, he is able to take his man on trips to Pound Town.
But that's a problem for most because of societal status. Knowing that he turns into the most dominant d-ck-you-down man in private isn't enough. You know your friends, family, the world would assume YOU are the top. But that's just it. You're dating for status. You want a Yahya Abdul Mateen-III on your arm.
If the world doesn't think he's masculine, it doesn't count. Also, as time goes on, you will learn that the ones saying "nobody knows I'm gay" are the most delusional, miserable, unhappy effeminate stereotypes when nobody's watching.
Masculine men don't spend their lives talking about masculinity. They're comfortable around everyone. Being around effeminate men doesn't make them feel they have to start talking about 'the good old days when men were men'.
Men who cannot express their emotions are dangerous. This manifests into violence, substance abuse and emotional abuse.
But hey, as long as he's masculine, doesn't matter that he beats you to make himself feel more manly, right?
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2020.09.27 17:14 Shy5646 🇮🇳 culture

I'm a African American male who really wants to start dating Indian women. I find myself physically attracted in particular to those from the southern region because of their darker skin. I know India has a long history of racism towards black people and I want to avoid that. What can I do to get over this issue?
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2020.09.27 17:12 Shy5646 🇮🇳 culture

I'm a African American male who really wants to start dating Indian women. I find myself physically attracted in particular to those from the southern region because of their darker skin. I know India has a long history of racism towards black people and I want to avoid that. What can I do to get over this issue?
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2020.09.27 16:03 CovidMdBot 9/27/2020 In the last 24 hours there have been 431 new confirmed COVID-19 cases in Maryland. There has now been a total of 123,403 confirmed cases.

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2020.09.27 11:43 Vermarine21 Miraculous New York Reflections

Bonjour everyone! You know a year and two months ago I joined this subreddit in part because I wanted to get some things off my chest about the season 3 finale. Since then I've been a very occasionally sharing some creative thoughts taking in some interesting fun facts and just generally waiting with anticipation for the fourth season of miraculous ladybug with you all. And now that the lava way New York special has air specifically taking place between seasons 3 and season 4, I think it's only apropos that I do my own very first reflection of a miraculous episode.

Let me start off by saying that this Special, while maybe not perfect, was pretty good bordering on great for what it was. Actually taking place at a specific point in continuity as opposed to just being a self contained one and done(more on that later) lent this Special quite a bit of context, motivation, tension, and familiarity that bridges the gap between two seasons while making it clear that these characters are leaving there own preoccupied world and entering a whole other. There are a number of brief yet significant scenes where the show's many major recurring characters and even some of the supporting ones have a bit of spotlight that reminds you of their stake in the story and swiftly sets the tone for where they are will go in season 4.

Is Ms. Bustier married? I actually had to check to see if she is indeed a Miss rather than a Mrs since her not being able to go on the trip has to do with her being pregnant, which obviously takes two. It really makes you wonder if we'll get a Ladybug baby shower episode or something, if not a conflict themed around the delivery.

Ms. Mendeleev is placed in charge of chaperone duties for the trip in what almost seemed like it was going to be a fourth/fifth subplot for the special. It seems like she may ease up a bit on the strictness, given that she seemed genuinely affected by the student's disappointment at her inclusion and even agreed to swap seats with Marinette when they spoke up on her behalf. A bit surprised she didn't catch on to the party at some point, though and she kinda disappears for the rest of the run.

Lila ends up being the only classmate staying in Paris, possibly due to her mom either still being under the impression the school is akumatized or not allowing her to go too far without her in general. Also, am I crazy or was she the one person who didn't seem moved by Ms. Bustier's announcement? Considering what happens halfway through the special, I can't help but wonder if she's gonna have legitimate ammo against the heroes next season in addition to the seeds planted among the school.

Interesting that Chloe didn't want to go to New York, only to almost certainly be made to do so by her parents(who probably want the Hotel to themselves). I honestly can't think of a reason for that beyond her just not wanting to deal with anyone right now after what happened with Ladybug and Hawkmoth; it's never touched on either, as she joins Ms. Mendeleev in ducking out. It's abruptness is clearly setting the stage for her slippage in Season 4.

Mr. Damocles really has been of a more genial air since his akuma episode and even seems less inclined to fear the Mayor, though that could also be because he had already spoken to him prior to Chloe's objection. Also, he had one of the funnier moments in the special with the Heroes on the plane.

Kagami shows up for almost literally half a minute fencing with Adrien, remarking that it's not fun besting him when he's "weak" and kissing him goodbye for the day. Whoo? She seemed unaware/indifferent of the trip, so maybe we'll get a brief follow-up of him not showing up the following day or so.

Nathalie is bedriden, but decidedly not dead/slumbering. Not only that, but she can apparently still use the fixed Peacock with seemingly no strings attached. The implications of this is...good for her[fans], but not for the heroes.

Gabriel mentioned keeping an eye on Adrien--what was that about? His subplot is fittingly the most direct bit of plot in the special, as his suspicions about there being other Miraculouses sets up future specials and seasons, but that line amidst using Marinette's convincing to elude Adrien's notice seemed out of place. Especially since he does next to nothing of the sort beyond sending his limo to pick him up after the first attack.

Adrien's bodyguard turns out to be fearful of airplane flying and as such manages to spend the entire special listening to a soothing audio therapy, completely unawares of any of the excitement that takes place.

Luka has a brisk thematic appearance getting Marinette onto the bus taking the class to the airport using his bike, suggesting that New York will be a chance to clear the air on how to move forward. I do like how this loosely implies he is touching base with her more often than before and yiu'd be lying if I said it contributed less than Kagami's scene did--especially with a lowkey but important callback prior to the final act.

This is technically a part of the New York stuff, but it's going here: Sabrina with the hookup! 😀 Ch'yeah, completely unexpected by the checkoff, it seems that Sabrina might just have established a long distance relationship with one of the Americans that adds to something I'll get into later. In general, the special through her a bit of a bone similar to Ms. Bustier and Mendeleev, which makes a bit more sense when we've had that interview about her getting development in Season 4 for a while now. If I can make a minor point bordering on pickiness here, part of me kinda wishes we got a little more on that and/or that guy was a tad less generic--barring the chance he isn't named in the credits, his design seemed ironically grounded in a show has such few African descending characters to begin with.

Getting to the meat of the American plot, it too sets the tone for a number of things about the mythology and provides some brief contrasts amidst its personal ensemble that I suspect with become more relevant as the show continues, both for obvious reasons and a few subtler ones. Marinette, Adrian, Gabriel, Aeon, and Jesse are the principal stars of this special, with Alya, Olympia, Barb, and Techno Pirate also being important supporting players; this means much of the stakes are based around Marinette and Adrian's bridging friendship, Ladybug and Cat Noir's trust in each other's abilities, Majestia, Knight Owl, Uncanny Valley, and Sparrow's intervention into their worthiness as heroes, and Hawkmoth's investigation about the Miraculouses' influence on world history.

Getting it out the way because it's the heart I normally don't care about, Marinette and Adrien's connection is... oddly balance in this episode. Getting it out the way, I must say that Marinette doesn't come across quite as trifling as the preview clip made her look: her freudian slips about husbands, babies, and staring in his eyes were confirmed tk the first their of the special and most of the other stuff are her reacting to unexpected compromises that she tries to stay away from. It's actually Adrien who almost seems dtc abroad, what with joining her for a beautiful sunset(when everyone else is asleep, mind) at the back of the plane, getting into fairly small spaces with her, and getting close to each other at least three times; I know half of that were accidents and he was honoring their being good friends, but how do you justify him ending up literally on top of her in the hotel and staying there regardless of how hilarious that gag was? (No, but for real though, those scene got funnier as the episode went on.)

Getting to the superhero elements here, Ladybug leaves Chat Noir in charge of protecting Paris with a button meant to summon her in case of an emergency. Now aside from the inevitable anger at him leaving his post to show up in New York, I thought this was going to be a total non-issue, especially since we know hot moth was going to be in New York as well. Boy, were we wrong about that! In fact, we were so wrong that so much justified tension between them causes something horrible to happen for a bit in New York, resulting in Chat Noir relinquishing Plagg out of guilt and Adrien being pulled from the trip to be privately flown back home. It's thanks to the intervention of Uncanny Valley that the two come back together, recognize how much they mean to each other as teammates, and join her and Sparrow in saving not only Paris, but New York's heroes as well.

Hate to break up the pacing, but I guess I got include them somewhere: the GOAT Alya has a role to play...oh, and Nino's there too. Somewhat fed up with Marinette being unable to clarify how she feels about Adrian already, the two decide to do their own Operation New York mission in order to gently convince the two to get together already. They end up feeling like the closest thing to an audience surrogate in a Special that kind of feels like a collective saving throw in general; of particular note is getting Jesse to play the song from Chloe's apology party while the two dance above the hotel roof(makes sense in context) and Alya coming back into form by directly asking Marinette to decide if she really wants Adrien to leave or not, prompting her to attempt to chase after the limo on a bike. A bit of a shame she didn't get to meet her original heroine in person, but ah well.

The American Heroes were generally alright, if a bit negligible C-plot characters aside from maybe Uncanny Valley; after her, Sparrow was an okay-whatever counterpart to her who I guess was supposed to be the cool one, Doorman was a funny "wth is he doing here" side hero, and Knight Owl was Batman lite to Majestia's Superman for a select few minutes. There were a number of other Heroes on the team with them, but most of them were breezed aside background characters or at least akuma victims who go by so fast that they are not really worth hitting on them right now. Despite how little there is to/of them in screentime, there are a few things that might be worth noting about the main four in implication that justifies splitting them up for convenience.

Aeon and Jesse take the lead being assigned to observe Marinette and Adrien as members of their peer group while debating how their approach could stand to stray from their mentor's guidelines, hoping to gauge the two's closeness in tandem with their capabilities. The dynamic between the two, while not the strongest thing given they're both new and what screentime they have, did a decent job of carrying their scenes and showing how the influence each other in slightly untraditional ways: Jesse is the spicy one with an attitude, but she generally sticks to orders beyond minor bits of alleviating her boredom, while Aeon is surprisingly the one more comfortable with using Majestia's own motto as an excuse to deviate from the plan despite somewhat literally being the Data/Spock of the duo. Ultimately, these two just seek to help Ladybug and Chat Noir while breaking from their mentor's dependence a bit.

Easily the biggest takeaway from this special has to do with how the Miraculouses do have their blind spots that need to be kept in mind--and dramatically so. The long-term Wham of the special comes when Mayura unexpectedly strikes in Paris using a Sentimonster of Robostus--this not only shows that Nathalie is decidedly not down for the count, but it establishes a clear limit in that Ladybug needs to be present so she can defeat the supervillains and use her Magic Ladybugs as quickly as possible to repair the damage they cause. These massive implications stand to raise the stakes in the future as Hawkmoth really can't be ignored during any globetrotting or else the havoc he reeks can't be undone; it also means that Ladybug and Chat Noir's absence will likely have lingering consequences going into the next season, as they weren't there to protect or possibly even save a few people.

Barb and Olympia somewhat function as parental figures who end up coming down on the younger heroes a bit when Ladybug and Chat Noir come across as a borderline lethally duo, demanding their Miraculouses with the intention of confiscating them for the rest of their stay and putting their two "daughters"(?) on the sidelines since they deliberately strayed from their instructions and got caught in the crossfire. They ultimately spend the rest of the special as either victims of the Miraculous wielding akuma or heavy support that indeed end the battles quickly not long after joining them. Also, I'll touch in another aspect of this later, but peculiar how the two big heroes of New York seem to have daughters who appear to be Hispanic/Navajo and African American, respectively, while spending an almost inseparable amount of time together.

Hawkmoth maintains his Magnificent Bastard status in traveling to New York in secret, recruiting an actual supervillain, and claiming the Miraculous on display unimpeded, all to confirm and test a theory regarding the existence of other Miraculouses that have indeed had an impact on history just as Alya theorized. The talon worn by Gilbert de Motier did in fact turn out to be the Eagle Miraculous with the Kwami Liiri, which he then gives to the already successful Techno Pirate as part of a plan to draw out all of the heroes to reek more havoc and maybe acquire Ladybug and Chat Noir's Miraculouses while they're in New York. Though this fails and he somewhat surprisingly doesn't keep the Eagle, he ultimately didn't need to--he got the knowledge he really came for, possibly shook the faith in superheroes for a bit, and now intends to travel the world in search of other lost Miraculouses in future seasons/specials.

The special's akuma of the day comes in the form of Mike Rochip aka Techno Pirate, an actual supervillain vaguely resembling Savage Dragon with a thin pirate dialect and an inclination towards stealing technologies for himself. This guy manages to be both an unwitting small time pawn in Hawkmoth's game(being tied up in a bathtub at his mercy and being genuinely confused as he's being rearrested) and yet a look at how legitimately devastating a real supervillain can be. Highlights stealing a turbine off of the plane containing almost all of the teenage cast, nearly killing Uncanny Valley numerous times, and notably being nonchalant in asking whether Hawkmoth would rather have an atomic bomb. His akumatized form Technolizer gained Doc Ock like arms that only ramped up his technopath powers and made him more destructive with minimal attention on his part and he even gets upgraded into Miraclonizer using the Eagle Miraculous's Liberation, which similar to Hawkmoth's akumatization allows the user to free people of their fetters so they can accomplish things they wouldn't have been able to willingly. Heck, it wouldn't surprise me if the missile strike plan at the end, which Hawkmoth notes could start a cold war by breaking the peace between America and France, was his suggestion given he personally counted down to its launch for joy.

Uncanny Valley(lol love that name, btw) was the sweet android loosely reminiscent of Vision, with a rather cute civilian design to contrast her creepy true form; Aeon is an AI created by Majestia who acts her daughter with an cloaked third eye with projection capabilities. While this "future fav' girl" might not be the greatest thing since Camembert, she is the most memorable of the new characters given her memorable designs, quirked if lowkey nature, and interesting origin that kinda begs for more. She also logically reinforces the notion that Kwami's can't be recorded by being unable to see or even hear Plagg, which makes sense given her eyes are basically cameras.

Anyone else get inklings of LGBT symbolism out of the other main Heroes Aeon? Knight Owl and Sparrow are very male passing heroes who are revealed to be a part of a legacy that they were trying to keep alive until Eagle's part in defeating of Techclonizer caused Jesse to reveal the truth about her gender. This even extends to Olympia and Barb herself, who noticeably corrects Jesse referring to them all as heroines and briefly leans on the former in a loving way after deciding it's time to let the masquerade come to an end.

And now for my final point, let's address about the setting in general: We're coming back to New York at some point. Even putting aside the obvious resourcefulness of producing this many assets for a one off Special, there are too many hooks and implications among them that suggest the heroes will keep in touch. The French American Friendship Week framing device kinda underscores all the actual evidence by being a legitimate link between the Miraculous Team of Paris and the American Heroes of New York.

It is mentioned early on that not only are the heroes well known, but that the public is well aware of most of their identities due to how much a part of American life they are; the Doorman in particular gives tours at the museum, entertains his many fans, and remembers to use his powers for the purpose getting others to safety. This is in sharp contrast to the Miraculous Wielders, who per the greater good and simple pragmatism have to keep their identities a secret less they lose their Miraculous to the Order of the Guardians or Hawkmoth.

Hot Dog Dan, the costumed vendor who shows up to the rooftop party at the hotel, serves two functions in his brief appearance. One is back up Alya mentioning how there's a hero for everything in New York since he basically flies in using balloons to what was supposedly a secret party and the other comes in the form of his magic hotdogs that each come with a particular temporary side effect. This is effectively establishes a more readily accessible version of the Spellbook's powerup recipes, which could allow side characters without a Miraculous to get in on the action without needing a hero or villain identity.

So many supers being commonplace to one notorious locale means that there is an entire League of Superheroes that the main four are a part of--even the friggin Mayor Hombee goes from sternly staring into your soul for a national press conference to suiting up seconds after to declare they will stop Technolizer and Hawkmoth, which got a laugh out of me. Again, the mere fact that we see a decent amount of this guys not get to do much suggests that we'll likely get to see them again at some point. For example, you know that Ice Heroine who had a part of her model shared through social media on the way to this getting a release date? Shows up in the background of like two scenes without a namedrop as far as I remember and never actually gets a scene.

Jesse is the American hero who gets the closest thing to an arc that not only sees her branch out of her mother's(?) wing, but also gives her a blink and you miss it connection to the greater mythos. Getting the superficial meta stuff out of the way for the few who might not know, Sparrow is one of the original three Quantic Kids from the earliest concepts of the show and thus her(originally his) can be seen as a canon immigrant precursor of what could have been Team Miraculous. With that said, I would like to point out how Eagle could very well reappears in the future for a good number of other reasons that may prove crucial to not only the character, but the plot as well. First, recall that the talon was dormant in the museum ever since Gilbert used it in the American Revolution, with Liiri being unaware that he's long dead for centuries. Next, Gabriel himself greeted Liiri to float about being correct as opposed to remaining as Hawkmoth using his Butterfly Miraculous, something we know he is entirely capable of and, spoilers, will do in season 4. As the cherry on top, Jesse and Aeon, who were very aware of who Ladybug and Chat Noir were from the jump, are now in possession from very Eagle Miraculous that Liiri is bonded to. I'll let you go past the equal sign....

And at the very end of the special was an undeniable indication of things to come: while watching over the celebration of the city from the rooftops, Eagle and Uncanny Valley are approached by none other than a Guardian! Reminiscent of an Native American chieftain himself, he asks that they surrender their Miraculous to his Miracle Box without any trouble, but seems to respond to Jesse's suggestion that they work together to protect New York with a smile. This is something that's been set to happen since Ladybug destroyed Feast--the Order of the Guardians have been restored alongside their temple, plucked from disappearing in a different time, and now they're beginning to venture into this whole new world with the perogative of reclaiming the Miraculouses. Assuming he agreed to help the American Heroes, his approval could serve as stark contrast to that of the Guardian who will inevitably come to Paris to clean up the remnants of Master Fu's decisions.

Here are a few bonus jots/musings that I took while watching:

The music in this special primarily invokes an Avengers feel, while Chat Noir noticeably bounces back with what sounds like a Patriotic rendition of his own Claws Out theme. This can awesomely silly or overly epic depending on how you look at it.

The episode proper starts with Mr. Pigeon taking off into space on the Eiffel, causing Cosmo Bug and Astro Cat to hand him his 51th defeat.

Did we see that flower color conversion before or am I just misremembering? The point about yellow representing friendship in particular rings a bell and I'm not talking about Chat Noir's.

Everyone was weirdly pitched down in this special, as confirmed through squeaky Tikki almost sounding like a normal person and Nino sounding nothing like himself. I thought they were going for everyone getting older even if it wouldn't make sense at first, but it sounds like the entire special received this effect for some reason. Perhaps one day, someone can make an edit where the characters sound normal.

It seems the impetus for the school trip was the entire class making student film narrated by Kim around George Washington and Marquis de Lafayette, which kinda evoke a bit of Ho Yay through the sock puppets attempting to hug looking more like make outs and the line about "no boundaries" being suspiciously timed. I actually had to do double take at student names in the credits

I just noticed Ms Mendeleev has calculus symbols on her shirt.

Principal Damocles is huge! I know the scale of character proportions has always been anime Polly Pocket to peculiar Pixar monstrocity, but he's about as big as the fucking airplane seat. Not wonder Marinette, who's pretty tiny in one herself, caught a tight spot when he managed to fall asleep and eventually over holdin a movie bucket of popcorn.

Anyone else thought Jesse was gonna sing when she came with the guitar and especially once Alya asked her if she knew a song?

Not sure I like the two's shrunken eyed brunette ala Beware the Batman and younger white Madea look as civilians though.

Once again, Marinette and Adrien end up detransforming on the back foot with a sewer wall between them.

Am I the only one who had small flip out when Uncanny Valley broke into Gabriel's jet to get Chat Noir back in the game?

Remind me, what was so significant about the Statue of Liberty that the key had to be kept in the Eiffel Tower?
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2020.09.27 02:31 CiscoGlimpse No, Vitamin D has not been demonstrated to be a therapeutic option for COVID

I've seen tonnes of posts all over about vitamin D protecting people from COVID. Every time a study is posted people jump on it saying that vitamin D is going to be a definitive treatment and the media is ignoring vitamin D, like they have some control over standard of care in a hospital.
It is known that vitamin D is important for immune health, but that does not mean vitamin D should be given in mega doses with COVID patients. Right now we give vitamin C and vitamin B1 in mega doses because both have been demonstrated to help ameliorate viral infections with significant efficacy. Vitamin D is suggested to help with upper respiratory infections (common cold) but even with a randomized control trial the authors stated "Due to heterogeneity of included studies and possible publication bias in the field, these results should be interpreted with caution."

First, what are the three types of studies that we need to define so it's clear that not all studies are the same and one type studies conclusions will be inferior to another in terms of power of conclusions.
Cross sectional study:
Cross-sectional studies involve data collected at a defined time. They are often used to assess the prevalence of acute or chronic conditions, but cannot be used to answer questions about the causes of disease or the results of intervention. Cross-sectional data cannot be used to infer causality because temporality is not known.
Cohort study:
A cohort study is a particular form of longitudinal study that samples a cohort (a group of people who share a defining characteristic, typically those who experienced a common event in a selected period, such as birth or graduation), performing a cross-section at intervals through time.
Cohort studies differ from clinical trials in that no intervention, treatment, or exposure is administered to participants in a cohort design; and no control group is defined. Rather, cohort studies are largely about the life histories of segments of populations, and the individual people who constitute these segments.
Randomized control trial: This involves randomly putting people into two groups while maintaining equal demographics (i.e. both groups have about the same age, gender, comorbidities), giving one group the placebo and the other a treatment (vitamin D), then measure the desired outcome (mortality).
RCTs are considered to be the most reliable form of scientific evidence in the hierarchy of evidence that influences healthcare policy and practice because RCTs reduce spurious causality and bias
Randomized control trials CAN be used to have enough influence on therapy that their outcome can change what physicians prescribe in clinical practice.

Now lets go through some of the studies that have been posted to COVID19 on Vitamin D:

The link between vitamin D deficiency and Covid-19 in a large population
We collected results from vitamin D tests performed between 2010 and 2019 and used weighted linear regression to assess the relationship between prevalence of vitamin D deficiency and Covid-19 incidence in 200 localities. Additionally, we matched 52,405 infected patients with 524,050 control individuals of the same sex, age, geographical region and used conditional logistic regression to assess the relationship between baseline vitamin D levels, acquisition of vitamin D supplements in the last 4 months, and positive Covid-19
This is a cross sectional study. So they're correlating whether someone with high vitamin D levels gets COVID. Do people with high vitamin D also have jobs where they can stay at home? Does having a high vitamin D also correlate with exercise? What my conclusion from this, is that healthy people are less likely to get seriously ill.

Low plasma 25(OH) vitamin D level is associated with increased risk of COVID‐19 infection: an Israeli population‐based study
The aim of this study was to evaluate associations of plasma 25(OH)D levels with the likelihood of coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID‐19) infection and hospitalization. The study population included the 14 000 members of Leumit Health Services, who were tested for COVID‐19 infection from February 1st to April 30th, 2020, and who had at least one previous blood test for the plasma 25(OH)D level. ‘Suboptimal’ or ‘low’ plasma 25(OH)D level was defined as plasma 25‐hydroxyvitamin D, or 25(OH)D, concentration below the level of 30 ng/mL. Of 7807 individuals, 782 (10.02%) were COVID‐19‐positive, and 7025 (89.98%) COVID‐19‐negative. The mean plasma vitamin D level was significantly lower among those who tested positive than negative for COVID‐19 [19.00 ng/mL (95% confidence interval (CI) 18.41–19.59) vs. 20.55 (95% CI: 20.32–20.78)].
Once again a cross sectional study, this is measuring that people with normal vitamin D status are less likely to get sick. Is this because someone who is healthy is less likely to get sick or that vitamin D has a unilateral protective effect?
A Basic Review of the Preliminary Evidence That COVID-19 Risk and Severity Is Increased in Vitamin D Deficiency
“COVID-19” is the MeSH term for SARS-CoV-2 disease, coronavirus 2019, COVID-19, and derivative terms. The topic of COVID-19 is a relatively new one, with the first reports published only 6 months ago (January 2020). In addition, because vitamin D supplementation is controversial, publication bias is a significant concern. Consequently, a significant percentage of the pertinent literature is found only on preprint services, most of which are captured by Google Scholar. PubMed casts a wider net than MEDLINE. Therefore, initially, PubMed and Google Scholar were searched for “COVID-19” AND “Vitamin D” (date range, 2020, omitting citations and patents, no language limitations). Repeated searches confirmed the growing interest in the hypothesis that vitamin D deficiency may play an important role in the COVID-19 pandemic
This was a literature review, so no primary research.
Two causal modeling studies and several analyses of variance strongly supported the hypothesis that vitamin D deficiency is a causal, rather than a bystander, factor in COVID-19 outcomes
They came up with the conclusion that there probably is a casual relationship between vitamin D and COVID severity, but this is not causative, so it's still ambiguous whether vitamin D has a central role or is a marker for something else.
Vitamin D in Prevention and Treatment of COVID-19: Current Perspective and Future Prospects
There are multiple clinical reports citing evidence for an association between vitamin D status and COVID-19, but they are all based on retrospective data. We have identified 13 such key clinical studies that support this presumption and one that contradict Most of these studies suggest a link between VDD and increased susceptibility to SARS-CoV-2 infection while underlining the importance of restoring vitamin D levels to normal.
This is another literature review saying a vitamin D level correlates inversely with COVID infections. This is another example of correlation but not causation.
Vitamin D deficiency as a predictor of poor prognosis in patients with acute respiratory failure due to COVID-19
In this retrospective, observational study, we analysed demographic, clinical and laboratory data of 42 patients with acute respiratory failure due to COVID-19, treated in Respiratory Intermediate Care Unit (RICU) of the Policlinic of Bari from March, 11 to April 30, 2020.
This is a cohort study, that actually looked at the study populations as they progressed through COVID. This still doesn't elucidate whether we should be giving vitamin D because there was no therapeutic or placebo given.
Vitamin D insufficiency as a potential culprit in critical COVID-19 patients
The standardized mean difference (SMD) or odds ratio and 95% confidence interval (CI) were applied to estimate pooled results from seven studies. The prognostic performance of vitamin D serum levels for predicting adverse outcomes with detection of the best cutoff threshold was determined by ROC curve analysis. Decision tree analysis by combining vitamin D levels and clinical features was applied to predict severity in COVID-19 patients.
Same thing as everything before.
Vitamin D Sufficiency Reduced Risk for Morbidity and Mortality in COVID-19 Patients
Hospital medical records were analyzed from inpatient database of Sina Hospital COVID-19 Registry (SHCo-19R). The data include demographics, laboratory measurements and computerized tomography results. Vitamin D sufficiency was defined a serum 25-hydroxyvitamin D [25(OH)D] level of at least 30ng/mL
Another cohort study that looks at whether someone has vitamin D competence, but doesn't show whether giving it will help.

Conclusion: I'm not saying that vitamin D helps or hurt, I'm saying that there's not enough evidence to make a judgement one way or the other. All of these studies have demonstrated is that people who have high vitamin D levels going into a COVID infection are more likely to survive. From that, it's hard for me to make a conclusion when the things that correlate with low vitamin D status are: low education (front line workers), African American, being over the age of 65, being obese, and having poor health (nutrition). Who is getting sick and dying right now more often than other populations in the US? Poor black front line workers who are poorly educated and obese. Is that what we're seeing or is it that this population specifically has low vitamin D that's leading to them being more susceptible to COVID? There needs to be a randomized control trial to elucidate this question. Until then, we cannot make a conclusion either way.
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2020.09.26 23:51 Hentai_Homie 20 [M4F] NYC / Anywhere

Nice to meet y’all. I go to a military school in the Bronx and it’s pretty fun having the time of my life. I have been feeling pretty lonely and my friend said that his reddit works and is active.
My name is David Height: 6’1” Sex: male DOB: 03/07/2000 Weight: 230 lbs / 104 kg Race: African American / Jamaican Ideal date (out of quarantine): going into the city get some great food. If need be go shopping. Bryant park is a must. Ideal date (quarantined): Netflix, Uber eats, pajamas, and maybe some ice cream Likes: Anime, working out, comedy, drawing, police, metrology, marine biology, and entomology Dislikes: stupid arguments, racism, bullies, and people who can’t take a joke
Let’s have a great time together or online!
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2020.09.26 17:32 all_are_used I'm drunk or stupid... need clarity on testing requirements for travel

Visiting home soon. Can someone confirm whether you need to undertake the test within 72hrs before departure, or whether the test result/certificate should be obtained within or not older than 72hrs before departure?
Most places I've checked this side said results will be available 2 to 4 days. Now if it's 4 days, I'll be screwed if they want me to e.g. take a test on Wednesday and have the result before i fly on Saturday.
As stated: (3) From 1 October 2020, all travelers from the African Continent and from countries outside the African Continent with a low rate of COVID-19 infection and transmission, will resume subject to- (a) the traveler providing a valid certificate of a negative test which was obtained not more than 72 hours before the date of travel;
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2020.09.26 16:12 CovidMdBot 9/26/2020 In the last 24 hours there have been 613 new confirmed COVID-19 cases in Maryland. There has now been a total of 122,972 confirmed cases.

SUMMARY (9/26/2020)
YESTERDAY'S TESTING STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg
Number of Tests 31,639 24,253 +30.5%
Number of Positive Tests 779 584 +33.5%
Percent Positive Tests 2.46% 2.51% -2.1%
State Reported 7-day Rolling Positive Testing Percent: 3%
Testing metrics are distinct from case metrics as an individual may be tested multiple times.
SUMMARY STATISTICS IN MARYLAND
Metric 24 HR Total Prev 7 Day Avg Today vs 7 Day Avg Total to Date
Number of confirmed cases 613 471 +30.1% 122,972
Number of confirmed deaths 8 7 +16.7% 3,780
Number of probable deaths 0 0 NaN% 145
Number of persons tested negative 11,203 9,189 +21.9% 1,461,328
Ever hospitalized 54 37 +46.5% 15,382
Released from isolation 27 11 +136.2% 7,458
Total testing volume 31,639 24,252 +30.5% 2,525,658
CURRENT HOSPITALIZATION USAGE
Metric Total 24 HR Delta Prev 7 Day Avg Delta Delta vs 7 Day Avg
Currently hospitalized 347 +3 0 -800.0%
Acute care 266 +1 0 +250.0%
Intensive care 81 +2 -1 -380.0%
The Currently hospitalized metric appears to be the sum of the Acute care and Intensive care metrics.
Cases and Deaths Data Breakdown
CASES BY COUNTY
County Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
Allegany 461 1 22 0 0 0
Anne Arundel 9,933 60 235 1 12 0
Baltimore County 17,782 62 599 0 23 0
Baltimore City 15,484 53 469 1 18 0
Calvert 939 6 27 0 1 0
Caroline 644 4 7 1 0 0
Carroll 1,944 7 123 1 3 0
Cecil 1,056 18 34 0 1 0
Charles 2,753 8 99 0 2 0
Dorchester 592 5 10 0 0 0
Frederick 4,019 24 124 0 7 0
Garrett 72 0 1 0 0 0
Harford 3,008 22 72 0 4 0
Howard 5,034 21 116 -1 6 0
Kent 303 3 22 0 2 0
Montgomery 22,275 90 804 2 40 0
Prince George's 29,130 135 804 2 23 0
Queen Anne's 654 2 25 0 1 0
Somerset 272 9 4 0 0 0
St. Mary's 1,288 14 57 0 0 0
Talbot 555 4 6 0 0 0
Washington 1,770 50 37 0 0 0
Wicomico 1,959 10 48 0 0 0
Worcester 1,045 5 25 0 1 0
Data not available 0 0 10 1 1 0
CASES BY AGE & GENDER:
Demographic Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
0-9 4,558 26 0 0 0 0
10-19 10,290 78 2 0 0 0
20-29 23,195 140 23 0 1 0
30-39 22,265 102 47 0 6 0
40-49 19,691 74 122 0 3 0
50-59 17,965 101 310 1 16 0
60-69 12,026 64 624 3 13 0
70-79 7,167 22 941 1 28 0
80+ 5,815 6 1,709 3 78 0
Data not available 0 0 2 0 0 0
Female 64,965 308 1,847 0 76 0
Male 58,007 305 1,933 8 69 0
Sex Unknown 0 0 0 0 0 0
CASES BY RACE:
Race Total Cases Change Confirmed Deaths Change Probable Deaths Change
African-American (NH) 38,994 125 1,548 1 55 0
White (NH) 30,635 161 1,601 4 71 0
Hispanic 26,700 79 438 1 12 0
Asian (NH) 2,330 4 141 1 6 0
Other (NH) 5,634 18 42 0 0 0
Data not available 18,679 226 10 1 1 0
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2020.09.26 11:13 callmeprincess__ I have an issue interacting with boyfriends family and it bothers him

So I’m 20 and African American he’s 26 and white I’ve been around his family twice in our eight month relationship but he invites me to everything and I always decline. Reason #1 I get the feeling they don’t like me or his dating preferences for example their idea of small talk is what does your mom do for wok, how many siblings do you have, what’s your plans for work school etc why that oh ok does your grams work etc etc and I was really thrown off like 🤨 I’m getting a weird vibe here. I play my part and we leave. Next it’s our birthday my boyfriend and I have the same birthday so we go to a birthday dinner with his family and his sister who wasn’t present boyfriend was mentioned and his mom was like ohhh the boyfriend (exaggerated scoff) she calls him a loser and blah blah blah he’s lazy he doesn’t have a job etc etc I’m sitting there stunned I was always taught to not talk about someone who isn’t there to defend themselves and or wait until they are sitting down with you and say how you feel but not at a birthday dinner with a stranger telling all your daughters business🤨🤨🤨 after that I realized what kind of people they were and have declined every opportunity to be around them there’s an old saying that people who talk about people in front of you talk about you to other people and I’m not giving them any more information to share and hopefully my boyfriend doesn’t either but it doesn’t matter because I’m never meeting any more of his family and going to another event with him that involves anyone he knows. He always asks me hey my families having a __________ you wanna come and I’m like nope and he’s like why and I just say I don’t wanna and he’s like well then Should I tell him the real reason I feel this way or just keep it at nope and move on
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2020.09.26 10:30 TheChaosDiscordGod Which new civillizations do you want added as playable after the Inca and Swedes in ''AOE 3: Definitive Edition''?

With the Definitive Edition release date approaching, the number of playable civillizations would be increased by two. However, the roster of the game is abit hit and miss. There are plenty of civillizations that could and should be added, with each representing a different geographical zone. Below I have placed 6 of the best candidates for future additions- Austrians (Eastern European), Italians (Mediterranean), Safavids (Middle East), Timurids (Central Asia) and United States (this one goes without saying). You can vote on whatever choice you want, or you can comment and add something yourself. Quite understandably, the voting will end after a week. However, sadly I don't know a way of presenting this to the developers at Microsoft (whoever does, they are welcomed to help). Well, please remember that any African civillizations won't count here because they belong to an entire separate expansion pack for themselves (if you want, I could make a second poll about that). Really hoping Microsoft sees this poll and listen to our wishes. Good luck and best of wishes everybody.
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2020.09.26 08:18 coach_sonia The Happy Love Relationship and therefore the Need Of Marriage Coach For It!

The Happy Love Relationship and therefore the Need Of Marriage Coach For It!
Love may be a beautiful feeling, then is being during a relationship. But what's happier is being during a happy, healthy, and understanding relationship. Everyone expects their partner to know them and support them with the time and tide. during a world where people are seeking temporary affection, and it gets difficult to uphold a relationship that strengthens with time. Along with an equivalent, people have such a lot getting into their lives altogether; career, responsibilities, family pressure, the status of society, and what not! handling all this within the same boat, people usually forget to offer time to their Love relationship and loves, making things worse.

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What exactly may be a happy relationship?

Everyone has probably heard the term happy relationship, but what exactly is that? for various people, the meaning and understanding of this term will contain different meanings. But if we speak, a cheerful relationship will have love, understanding, commitment, friendship, and willingness to figure out how to create things better. When two people close as a few, they maintain this, but with time people ignore the very fact that they have to stay performing on it forever. And with things taken without any consideration, a gorgeous Love relationship that was alleged to last forever ruins in two months. So what's the key to maintaining an equivalent bond and love forever?

The secret for being happy and forever couples!

Two people during a relationship rarely have an equivalent taste in things, food, colors, life approach, career goals, and everything. But this never means people from different backgrounds together will face a miserable relationship. A footballer and a chef are often a blissful couple, then are often a singer and a lawyer. Your partner is often the entire opposite of you, but can understand you wish nobody else. Here are a couple of the secrets to cherish your Love relationship forever:
  • Realistic approach: A relationship isn't all sunny and shining all the time; there are many difficulties that you simply will undergo. So if you expect that your relationship will always have that romantic enthusiasm is unrealistic and maybe a serious factor to grow your relationship faulty. you would like to know that not experiencing an equivalent love you probably did, within the beginning, doesn't mean the top of love!
  • Keep on working for your relationship: A flower only lives till the date you water it. an equivalent is that the flow with a relationship; Keep on working for the small and large things here. albeit you're facing any little misunderstanding, problems, issues associated with anything together with your partner, ask them that and have an optimistic approach towards solving it. Your relationship will blossom if you remove the dead weeds!
  • Time is that the key: it's a busy world; you've got things to accomplish and a bunch of responsibilities. But it's equally necessary to spend some quality time. The entire point of being together has that boost of quality time where you two get to be involved with one another and share some propitious time. It can do anything watching movies, talking, random dates, or anything that you simply wish to enjoy together with your partner.
  • Respect the differences: Your partner can have different opinions and choices than you, so it becomes your responsibility to value that. Sometimes you will not even like what they are doing, but disrespecting their feelings can hurt them and do your relationship.
  • Accepting them within the way they're: one among the main reasons why relationships don't work is because people expect their partner to vary instead of accepting them as they are. The time you spend trying them to adapt the way you're should be spent realizing that things compute the simplest once you involve them with none changes.
  • Communication: All of the above things can show a fruitful result only you two communicate properly. True love lies in talking openly about anything and everything. mention what you've got in your mind, mention what you're feeling, mention what you're feeling wrong; this will make your relationship stronger than ever.

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Involving a love coach to enhance your relationship

Many times, you allow no stones unturned in solving the miseries of your relationship, but you cannot, for the very reason, relationship coaches do exist. A marriage coach or a relationship coach is someone who is a mentor that channels the way for people that want their relationship to travel on. They unleash the emotions that eventually solve the misunderstandings that lie between people. a few coaching can help foster the subsequent parts for couples:
  • Understanding one another during a better way and utilizing their emotions to strengthen the connection.
  • Making people engage in better ways within the relationship.
  • The importance of communicating the issues and solving them effectively with mutual concern.
  • The need to understand the error of oneself instead of blaming it on your partner.
  • Taking your relationship to a healthy, communicating, and happy zone.

How can a few coaches help your relationship?

A relationship is the source of many things in your life; if your sexual love isn't balanced, it directly or indirectly reflects on other spheres of your life. It also influences your psychological state and spiritual wellbeing. it is not easy to offer abreast of your relationship. You invest tons in your partner, be it emotionally or mentally. Hence, it's always an honest thing to require our time and normalize things with the assistance of an African coach instead of torturing yourself to forcefully undergo it.
Relationship coaching may be a professional way of handling relationship issues. It takes two people to be in a relationship, so you both got to understand the way to restore your lost reference to happiness. And seeking the assistance of a knowledgeable friend sort of like a marriage coach can prevent a failing relationship. you'll be in-tuned with the coach as long as you think that your relationship has solved all the misconceptions and is back on target. Finding love isn't very easy during this world, and you've got to find the one to form sure you retain them truly!
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2020.09.26 06:06 Morpheus987 Telling someone “This is my culture” doesn’t give you free reign to say or do whatever you want. You also need to respect the boundaries of others.

I attended a party for my East African girlfriend’s nursing graduation last night. I’ve been dating her for maybe a year and invariably I’m corrected for not bowing to elders, shaking hands correctly, participating in dancing, praying etc. I just about lost it last night. I had a major headache and didn’t want to do any festive dancing. I was asked 6 times before I finally got up and left the room. After being asked to respect the customs of the home I told them, yes I appreciate and respect your culture but I also have boundaries. Sorry everyone but I’m a grown ass man and I’ll be damned if any culture makes me do something I don’t want to because I need to “respect it”. Shiiiettt
EDIT Although initially rattled, my girlfriend understood where I was coming from and apologized for her family’s behavior.
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2020.09.26 04:26 kalpurpleceo Thoughts on dating non Somali men

I just wanted to know your thoughts on dating north African men, Algerians to be more specific, i recently started dating this amazing guy, very affectionate, caring and he is a provider but my family is very traditional and completely against it, they want an arranged marriage with a somali guy that i don't know anything about.
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2020.09.26 03:28 helpcreepylandlady My grandpa's parrot keeps shouting weird stuff at me

I guess I should give you all some context on this before I get started. My grandpa loves animals and he’s had some pretty strange ones in his time. He’s had dogs and cats, but he prefers exotic animals like snakes and birds of paradise. Apparently he once had a pet spider monkey, but that was before I was born. He lives on a farm now and, as a kid, I used to love going to visit him.
I’d get to feed the chickens, play with his two dogs, and ride on the little russet-coloured pony he had called Sir Jimmy. It was a pretty idyllic upbringing. I remember loathing the sound of my parents’ car coming up the driveway, because I knew that it was time to go home and I’d have to wait another month or so before I was able to come back.
 
I never asked too much about what happened to my grandmother but, from what I have gathered over the years, she left not long after my mother was born and they haven’t heard from her since.
My mom once hinted that there was a history of mental illness on that side of the family and that it was possibly her mother’s post-natal depression drove her to abandon them, or worse. My grandpa never remarried and I don’t think he dated another woman after my grandmother left him. I never bring it up with him, because I don’t want to open any old wounds.
 
Since I went to college, I’ve not been able to visit him as often as I used to, but I told him that I’d stay with him for the whole summer once I graduated. The pandemic has made everything a lot more complicated and I nearly decided to abandon the idea, because I didn’t want to put my grandpa at risk.
In the end, my parents convinced me to go, because I can drive and it meant that I could safely get groceries for him. They worry about him living on his own, since he’s over an hours’ drive away from my parents’ house and he’s fiercely independent, so he doesn’t ask for help even when he needs it.
The pandemic did mean I had to delay my trip, however, so I didn’t arrived here until the start of September.
 
When I first walked through the door, it felt like nothing much had changed, although the house was in a bit of a state. Everything was covered in a fine layer of dust and there were dishes piled up in the sink, some still with moulded food clinging to them. The smell in the kitchen was pretty unbearable if I’m honest.
My grandpa seemed well enough though and he was wearing clean clothes, so I tried not to worry myself too much. He had dropped a bit of weight, but he was in good spirits and totally cognisant. I told myself that I’d have plenty of time to get the house in order anyway.
For the first week or so, I got stuck in with cleaning around the house and stocking up the kitchen. I was so engrossed in getting everything up to scratch that I didn’t really pay too much attention to my grandpa’s parrot, which is the only pet he has left now that he’s too old to tend to the farm animals anymore.
My parents were the ones who bought him the parrot, since he’d always talked about getting one and they thought being able to “talk” with it might help to keep him mentally stimulated. He had his heart set on a scarlet macaw because of their plumage but, in the end, my parents bought him an African grey parrot, since they’re the most competent “talkers.” Staying true to his sense of humour, my grandpa named the parrot Bob, because of his habit of bobbing his head up and down when he was excited.
 
It was about a week in to my trip that Bob spoke up. I was in the kitchen sorting out some of the canned foods, when I called out to my grandpa in the living room and asked what he wanted for dinner.
 
“Shut up. Just shut up,” I heard him call from the other room, his voice hoarse as though he had been shouting for some time. I was in shock, so I asked him again in a softer tone, only to be told to “shut my damn mouth.” I decided to go check on him and, as I was walking through the hallway, I noticed Bob fidgeting in his cage.
 
“Shut up,” he snapped at me, in my grandpa’s voice. It was a really surreal moment and, out of sheer nervousness, I started laughing. This apparently set the parrot off, because it embarked on a barrage of insults that I won’t repeat here. All the while, I just couldn’t stop laughing and, by the time my grandpa found me, I was practically crying with laughter.
 
“Oh Bob,” my grandpa said, wiggling his finger in the cage to try and calm the bird down, “that’s no way to speak to our guest.” My grandpa flashed me an apologetic smile and followed me into the kitchen to help sort out dinner.
 
The whole incident seemed harmless enough, until about a week ago.
 
I don’t know whether you’ve ever stayed in the countryside, but the nights out there are about as dark as they come. Sometimes, when I’d sleep over at my grandpa’s farm, I felt like the sheer weight of that darkness was physically pressing down on me. It wasn’t necessarily an unpleasant feeling, but there’s something unnerving about that almost impenetrable type of blackness.
It was into that blackness that I awoke to the sound of a woman screaming.
 
“No,” I heard from down the stairs, “please stop.” It sounded as though her cries for help were mingled with weeping. I was paralysed with fear, but summed up the courage to grab my dressing gown, turn my phone’s flashlight on, and rush down the stairs. I had no idea what I’d encounter on the way down.
When I got to the base of the stairs, I could still hear the sound of the woman whimpering, and I followed the sound down the hallway.
 
It was the damn parrot!
 
I put my hand on my hip and wagged my finger at it.
“Bob,” I said, “you scared the sh** out of me. Please don’t do that again.”
He only responded by bouncing up and down so, feeling relieved yet exhausted, I turned around to go back to bed. As I was about to start up the stairs, however, something stopped me dead in my tracks.
 
“He’s going to kill me,” the parrot screamed, with such visceral fear that the hairs on my arms prickled up. I swivelled around to check that it was still the parrot, since the sound felt so human. The light from my phone glanced off of the parrot’s glassy eyes as he turned his head left and right. I wondered if there might be something wrong with him, so I decided I’d wake my grandpa up and see what we should do.
 
As I climbed the staircase, every creak sent a shockwave up my spine. I hadn’t felt this shook up since I was a kid and I had caught a glimpse my grandpa “putting down” one of the sick pigs.
When I reached his bedroom, I turned the doorknob as quietly as possible, so as not to give him a fright. I crept into the room and started walking towards the bed, when it struck me that I couldn’t hear him breathing. My grandpa is a heavy sleeper and he snores almost constantly throughout the night, so this put me on edge.
I rushed to the side of the bed thinking the worst, only to find that he wasn’t there. I shone my flashlight around the room, but there was no sign of him.
 
In a panic, I went on a tear through the top floor of the house, turning on all of the lights and checking all of the rooms. He was nowhere to be found. I went down the stairs again and caught sight of the parrot, who kept taking me in with sideways glances from those reptilian eyes.
I don’t know what possessed me to do this, but I felt compelled to approach his cage and take a closer look at him. To my surprise, the parrot seemed receptive and almost calmed by my presence. I reached through the cage and he let me stroke his head, which was downy and soft. I don’t know how long I stood there petting him, but I remember feeling at ease. By the time I felt the sharp corner of his beak sinking into the fleshy tip of my finger, I was already in a trance.
 
In a split second, I was reeling backwards and lurching away from his cage, as he fluffed out his feathers and raised his wings up in an unmistakable display of aggression.
 
“He’s coming,” the parrot screamed, bobbing up and down with increasing fervour, “he’s coming.”
 
I heard something wooden slam in the living room and, out of instinct, I trained my flashlight on the source of the sound. All I could see was my grandpa standing upright in the corner of the living room and staring right at me. He was so silent and still that, at first, I thought he might be sleep walking.
 
“Grandpa?” I called out, my voice trembling. Without a sound, he started walking towards me with his eyes trained on me and his head turned slightly downward, so the rings under his eyes seemed like two dark pools that my flashlight couldn’t penetrate. It wasn’t until he was about two feet away from me that he smiled and his expression softened.
 
“Oh,” he said, “it’s you.” As though he had just seen someone in the street that he recognised.
“Come on, my dear,” he said, patting me on the shoulder, “you should be getting to bed. You’ve been working so hard for your old grandpa.” With that, he ushered me up the stairs and back into my bedroom, even going so far as to stand in the doorway and shut the door.
 
I wanted desperately to chalk his actions up to the onset of senility, but there was something so menacing and deliberate in the way that he approached me that night, as if he thought I might be someone else. What would he have done if he hadn’t recognised me? I don’t want to think about it too much.
I didn’t get a wink of sleep that night and I swear that I could still here him shuffling around downstairs long after he’d “gone to bed.” I couldn’t get the image of him standing in the corner of that room out of my mind.
 
The next day, I didn’t broach the subject and neither did he, although there was a palpable tension between us. We barely spoke the whole day, and the parrot spent most of the day sleeping. An endless series of questions seared themselves into my brain and tormented me for the next few days.
I wasn’t sure whether to get in touch with my parents, forget about the incident altogether, or handle it myself. In the end, I came to the conclusion that the answers I sought could be found in the corner of that room.
 
The only issue is that my grandpa is almost always in the living room or somewhere nearby, so it was difficult to find a window of opportunity when he wouldn’t be able to see me. Luckily, today, I convinced him to take a short walk outside to “get some fresh air” and I seized the opportunity to finally check what was in the corner of the room. I spent ages agonising over the wallpaper, seeing if there were holes or any indication of anything unusual, knowing in the back of my mind that I had only a precious few moments. I could feel the blood pounding in my head as I searched, but I couldn’t find anything. It was then that I looked down and saw the corner of the carpet, which looked as though it had been shifted ever so slightly.
When I pulled up the corner, I discovered a hatch in the wood floor. I don’t remember my grandpa ever mentioning that the house had a cellar, but the hatch had no dust on it and must have been used relatively recently. It took all of my self-control not to bend down and wrench open that door.
I’m thankful that I didn’t give in to temptation because, not long after I’d made the discovery, I heard the backdoor slam and my grandpa’s shuffling gait as he walked through the kitchen. He thanked me for the suggestion, since the walk had done him good, and then settled into his leather armchair. I don’t think he suspects me just yet.
 
What should I do? I’m going to be here at least until Thanksgiving and I don’t want my imagination to get the better of me, but I have an uneasy feeling about everything that’s been going on. Should I call my parents? Or just forget all of this ever happened?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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2020.09.26 01:42 SuperOrdinaryUser 🍄AbyssRium Pole - Wonderland Iceberg Fusion Event🍄

The Wonerland Iceberg fusion event is live for some players as of September 25th, 2020!

This megathread will be linked from the megathread hub post in the pinned post of this subreddit.
Please remember that the updates always, always, ALWAYS roll out on a staggered schedule. There is no rhyme or reason to who gets the update first. There is no way to get the update faster. Screaming on here will not help. Everyone should have the update within a week or so.
Links to previous AbyssRium Pole Megathreads (for players who are yet to complete the previous events, or need help with the game itself):

A few general event tips

Event Summary

Update specifics

Game Features

New decoration system is added. Access it via the main menu (5th tab) and take a look at the in-game tutorial. More info below.
Access the game's customizations via the palette icon next to the camera icon. You can view how they actually look by tapping on the small magnifying glass right by the said customization's icon without buying it, similar to the Preview feature in AbyssRium.
To access the ongoing events, tap on the fish 'book' icon on the lower left corner of your screen, just above your Vitality count. Then, select an event that you want to complete.
A new normal creature is added:

Event Items

Currency: Farm Materials (i.e. Red Mushrooms, Parasol Mushrooms, Black Cobbles, and Pebbles)
Customizations:
IAP:

Event Creatures

Creature Name Unlock requirement Creature required Farm materials needed (full price)
Heart Penguin Soldier none Adelie Penguin 10 Parasol Mushrooms
Spades Penguin Soldier Own 3 Heart Penguin Soldiers Gentoo Penguin 10 Parasol Mushrooms + 10 Red Mushrooms
Violet Firefly Own 3 Spades Penguin Soldiers Gray Seal 20 Parasol Mushrooms + 10 Red Mushrooms
The White Rabbit with Pocket Watch Own 3 Violet Fireflies Crabeater Seal 20 Parasol Mushrooms + 10 Red Mushrooms + 10 Black Cobbles
The Little Hatter Bear Own 3 The White Rabbits with Pocket Watches, Watch 2 ads for free Vitality Cape Petrel 40 Parasol Mushrooms + 10 Red Mushrooms + 20 Black Cobbles
Argyle Lantern Bluebird Own 3 Little Hatter Bears, Open 3 treasure chests Antarctic Silverfish 40 Parasol Mushrooms + 10 Red Mushrooms + 10 Black Cobbles + 10 Pebbles
The Palace Lady Wallaby Own 5 Argyle Lantern Bluebirds, Use Bird's Chorus 10 times Magellan Penguin 50 Parasol Mushrooms + 10 Red Mushrooms + 10 Black Cobbles + 10 Pebbles
Sleeping Dormouse Own 5 Palace Lady Wallabies, Watch 10 ads to reset skills African Penguin 50 Parasol Mushrooms + 10 Red Mushrooms + 10 Black Cobbles + 10 Pebbles
Happy Mouse and his balloon Own 5 Sleeping Dormice, Use Whale's Blessing 20 times Chick (Spring event) 60 Parasol Mushrooms + 20 Red Mushrooms + 20 Black Cobbles + 10 Pebbles
Argyle Cheshire Cat Own 5 Happy Mice and their balloons, Use Moon Song 30 times Black Marlin (Temperate Forest event) 60 Parasol Mushrooms + 30 Red Mushrooms + 30 Black Cobbles + 20 Pebbles
The Peacock Queen of Spades Own 5 Argyle Cheshire Cats, Watch 5 ads for free Pearls Red Snapper (Egypt Event) 100 Parasol Mushrooms + 50 Red Mushrooms + 40 Black Cobbles + 30 Pebbles
The Hippo Queen of Hearts Own 5 Peacock Queens of Spades and 80 Wonderland creatures Meerkat (costs 3,000 Pearls) 120 Parasol Mushrooms + 60 Red Mushrooms + 80 Black Cobbles + 50 Pebbles

Treasure Discovery

Tap on the penguin on the dock to access this feature. The decorations (as the game calls it "Treasures"), are upgraded by getting certain amounts of pieces obtained from casting for treasure pieces. You can get 2, 5, or 12 sets of pieces at a time, for the price of an ad (for 2 sets of pieces; max of 10 per day), or Pearls (5 sets, costs 150 Pearls; 12 sets, costs 300 Pearls).
Unlockable treasures, rarity of pieces (listed in-game odds are false – you are guaranteed to get the pieces), and benefits:

Farms and Farm Materials

You can now gather Farm Materials from two farms in the game: Tree Trunks Mushroom Farm and Cobblestone Hill. Guarded respecively by Jack the gentle stone troll and Heidi who claims to be the greatest wizard, these Farms work somewhat differently than the farms in the previous game. These farms produce 10 of a farm material per set time, but the given farm material will be selected at random. The farms include:
Tree Trunks Mushroom Farm (produces 10 of either farm materials every 10 minutes)
Cobblestone Hill (produces 10 of either farm materials every hour)
The cost for skipping time to get the farm materials instantly is 3 Pearls per minute (not worth it). However, you can watch a maximum of 5 ads for free farm materials a day.

Decoration system

Like the original AbyssRium, you can now place decorations in the game! These decorations cost Farm Materials, so it's recommended to buy them after you've completed fusion events or have a lot of materials to spare. These decorations include:
Word of warning: These decorations are single use items that launch upon tapping (300 launches is required for a penguin) that will never return after it launches. Spend your materials wisely.

FAQ, Bugs and Bug Fixes:

Is this event good?
Objectively speaking, no. Farm materials are a neat add to the game, but making their harvest randomized isn't and it makes completing events rather slower (or even grindier) to complete. This event now requires spending 3,000 Pearls (for the Meerkat) to complete. Wish we could just go back to the times when the events used only Vitality instead but keeping the creation tickets for those struggling to complete the events.
There's an event creature that requires watching ads for Pearls x number of times. I'm sure that I've watched more than x ads for Pearls but it's still not unlocked!
Chances are that you've not watched the ads for Pearls in the shop menu. In order to watch those ads, access the shop menu by tapping on the purple chest icon on the lower left corner of your screen, and then tap on the third tab on the menu (which is the shop menu for the Pearls).
I've fulfilled the unlock requirements for the Treasure Discovery Penguin costume. How can I claim this?
Just like changing the Iceberg's costumes, dyes, and themes, access the customizations menu by tapping on the palette icon on the lower right corner of the screen, then tap on the penguin with a paintbrush icon (4th tab) to view and change your Treasure Discovery Penguin costume. Alternatively, accessing the Treasure Discovery menu and then tapping the "change penguin costume" also lets you do so.
View this image with steps on how to do this
When will the events end?
Since the first event (Spring Event), none of the events are ending yet. It's still unknown whether the devs will end the events on a later date or not, probably to give time for those who are new to the game or have a hard time progressing through the game to catch up. Until the devs make an announcement about it, the events won't be ending (at least for now).
Major thanks to u/bevenw for the event info!
Leave your unlocks, tips, hints, and questions below! Happy terraforming!
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2020.09.25 23:28 IAmPandaGod I don't know what to do about my boyfriends sister anymore

Never posted in this sub before so i hooe this is the right place XD
Im gonna list everyone here as it may get confusing.
Me: me Bf: boyfriend K: Boyfriends sister M: Boyfriends brother bff: my best friend and also M's girlfriend
So quick backstory, me and my bff lost contact during college but got back into contact may last year (2019) During the time we were at college she started dating this guy M, and after we git back in contact i met him, his older sister and older brother and eventually started dating M's older brother, my current bf.
We've now been together for nearly a year and just today my bff told that K had admitted that she was jealous of my relationship with my bf. This is because
  1. We are a very touchy feely couple but not in the annoying way, we're alsways holding hands, often go on dates and have alone time and he will do cute things like randomly kiss me on the forhead while we're out and if we're standing around talking with friends, he'll often stand behind me with arms around my waist.
    1. M and my bff lived with M's family for a year before they got thier own place, so now it's just my Bf, K and thier mom, and K seems to really dislike that we talk on the phone and that if i go visit, sometimes we actually wanna just watch a movie alone in his room rather then always be with her.
Now this alone isn't a big deal, i would usually just assume she's not use to her brother being in a relationship. But its not the only thing.
If she is not constantly the centre of attention she will throw a tantrum and get pissy. Our friend group has facebook grouo chat and will often plan to meet up. This is usually arranged by someone sending a general message asking whos in town or if people want to hang out, and she will never responde but then suddenly show up only to later complain that no one invited her. It happens all the time and I've realised that she does it because she wants someone to personally go "oh K would you like to join us" rather then simple just saying she will be in town when someone asks in the group chat.
She also always has to know everything, for example, when me and my Bf reached 6 months, we were still in strict lockdown and couldn't see each other, so he had a little care package/gift sent starigt to my house, which consisted of a mixture of my favourite chocolates, South African cream soda, as im south african, but very rarely get to have treats that i grew up on anymore. And a little Tatty Teddy bear. Now as a chikd i absolutly loved Tatty Teddy, however my boyfriend didn't know this and him choosing that was a complete coincidence. The only person who at that time still knew how much i loved Tatty Teddy was my mother. So when i opened this little care package, i did on the video call to him, and she was there. I told him that i actually loved Tatty Teddy and we laughed about it. And then K pipped up and tried to say that she always knew i loved Tatty Teddy and thats why when my Bf asked her opinion she suggested that one. I quickly shut that down by saying that i had never told her, in fact i hadn't told anyone since i was about 11. I could tell by her face she wasn't happy i had revealed her lie but shr shut up.
Im sorry i know this is getting really long but honestly theres so much little petty shit she does i just have to rant and want to know if im over reacting.
Now this is where M and my bff come in. K is in her mid 20s and desbritly wants a child, but her boyfrind, who is only 22, and a prick i should add, clearly isn't ready. But rather then just admitting that, she constantly lies saying she can't have kids right now because of issues with her ovaries ect, one time she told my bff that she was on some new trail meds from America that might mean she can have kids, and when my bff quistioned it the story constantly changed. At my bffs birthday last year, in the middle of the party she starts telling everyone to be quiet as she has news, apparently the doctors had given her some new meds and she could start trying for kids, AT MY BFFS BIRTHDAY she makes it completly about herself and now all the attention is on her.
She also conveniently has mental break doens when she doesn't get her way. At M's birthday back in july we had a small get together at his and my bffs house and played DnD. After the session we where chilling and boyfrind gave me a quick hug, as we hadn't seen each other in ages and social distancing wasn't a problem in our area, ill also add none of us or our family members are high risk either, it literally lasted like 1 second, and K completely lost her shit. Started shouting at my Bf about how she now has to lie to thier mother and say we didn't touch in anyway way ect, eventually M told them to get out his house and we basically all just left as the mood was completely ruined. About 2 weeks later she admitted to me that literally 2 days before M's birthday she had gone over to her boyfriends house and they had had sex, but she blatantly lied to her mother and said she was helping him clean up his garden all day.
There's so much else but honestly this post is already too long. Thankyou for reading if you made it to the end XD Im at my wits end with all this and just want to know what to do and if im over reacting.
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2020.09.25 23:26 IAmPandaGod I don't know how to deal with my boyfriends sister anymore.

Never posted in this sub before so i hooe this is the right place XD
Im gonna list everyone here as it may get confusing.
Me: me Bf: boyfriend K: Boyfriends sister M: Boyfriends brother bff: my best friend and also M's girlfriend
So quick backstory, me and my bff lost contact during college but got back into contact may last year (2019) During the time we were at college she started dating this guy M, and after we git back in contact i met him, his older sister and older brother and eventually started dating M's older brother, my current bf.
We've now been together for nearly a year and just today my bff told that K had admitted that she was jealous of my relationship with my bf. This is because
  1. We are a very touchy feely couple but not in the annoying way, we're alsways holding hands, often go on dates and have alone time and he will do cute things like randomly kiss me on the forhead while we're out and if we're standing around talking with friends, he'll often stand behind me with arms around my waist.
    1. M and my bff lived with M's family for a year before they got thier own place, so now it's just my Bf, K and thier mom, and K seems to really dislike that we talk on the phone and that if i go visit, sometimes we actually wanna just watch a movie alone in his room rather then always be with her.
Now this alone isn't a big deal, i would usually just assume she's not use to her brother being in a relationship. But its not the only thing.
If she is not constantly the centre of attention she will throw a tantrum and get pissy. Our friend group has facebook grouo chat and will often plan to meet up. This is usually arranged by someone sending a general message asking whos in town or if people want to hang out, and she will never responde but then suddenly show up only to later complain that no one invited her. It happens all the time and I've realised that she does it because she wants someone to personally go "oh K would you like to join us" rather then simple just saying she will be in town when someone asks in the group chat.
She also always has to know everything, for example, when me and my Bf reached 6 months, we were still in strict lockdown and couldn't see each other, so he had a little care package/gift sent starigt to my house, which consisted of a mixture of my favourite chocolates, South African cream soda, as im south african, but very rarely get to have treats that i grew up on anymore. And a little Tatty Teddy bear. Now as a chikd i absolutly loved Tatty Teddy, however my boyfriend didn't know this and him choosing that was a complete coincidence. The only person who at that time still knew how much i loved Tatty Teddy was my mother. So when i opened this little care package, i did on the video call to him, and she was there. I told him that i actually loved Tatty Teddy and we laughed about it. And then K pipped up and tried to say that she always knew i loved Tatty Teddy and thats why when my Bf asked her opinion she suggested that one. I quickly shut that down by saying that i had never told her, in fact i hadn't told anyone since i was about 11. I could tell by her face she wasn't happy i had revealed her lie but shr shut up.
Im sorry i know this is getting really long but honestly theres so much little petty shit she does i just have to rant and want to know if im over reacting.
Now this is where M and my bff come in. K is in her mid 20s and desbritly wants a child, but her boyfrind, who is only 22, and a prick i should add, clearly isn't ready. But rather then just admitting that, she constantly lies saying she can't have kids right now because of issues with her ovaries ect, one time she told my bff that she was on some new trail meds from America that might mean she can have kids, and when my bff quistioned it the story constantly changed. At my bffs birthday last year, in the middle of the party she starts telling everyone to be quiet as she has news, apparently the doctors had given her some new meds and she could start trying for kids, AT MY BFFS BIRTHDAY she makes it completly about herself and now all the attention is on her.
She also conveniently has mental break doens when she doesn't get her way. At M's birthday back in july we had a small get together at his and my bffs house and played DnD. After the session we where chilling and boyfrind gave me a quick hug, as we hadn't seen each other in ages and social distancing wasn't a problem in our area, ill also add none of us or our family members are high risk either, it literally lasted like 1 second, and K completely lost her shit. Started shouting at my Bf about how she now has to lie to thier mother and say we didn't touch in anyway way ect, eventually M told them to get out his house and we basically all just left as the mood was completely ruined. About 2 weeks later she admitted to me that literally 2 days before M's birthday she had gone over to her boyfriends house and they had had sex, but she blatantly lied to her mother and said she was helping him clean up his garden all day.
There's so much else but honestly this post is already too long. Thankyou for reading if you made it to the end XD Im at my wits end with all this and just want to know what to do and if im over reacting.
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